……so what’s up with you and Kevin? ’ Oh nothing really, we are just
really good friends. ‘
I was having a conversation with one of my mates the other
day when I asked her about a guy she just met and she said they were just
friends. But can man and woman really just simply be friends? There is always
that undeniable attraction. That ‘what if’....that ‘just once’……that ‘we are
really good friends so we will definitely bounce back’, of course this could go
in a completely different way and she is not the least bit attracted to him.
All this is of course in the female’s mind only, yes, in fact the story is
quite the opposite in the male’s mind. He thinks, ‘I just have to get close
enough’….’I’ll be right there when she is vulnerable enough to have casual sex’……’I’ll
be right here when she lets her emotions overwhelm her after her breakup and
tricks her into thinking we could be something more than friends.’
See I once had a lot of faith in the male sex. Yes, I was
the first to defend all my male friends and say we are nothing but friends and
not all of them are preying on me. Quite naïve I was. Just last night I was having
a conversation with one of my male friends and brought up the topic. He was
more than happy to let me know that there is no such thing as just friends to a
guy lol. This came as no surprise to me of course as another one of my male
friends had told me this before, yes, this was more like confirmation. So I
asked him what he thinks If I am dating boy x and him and I are just friends. He
gladly told me boy x is simply the guy that skipped the line to the cookie jar
and everyone is still waiting in line. Lol very odd way to put it I agree.
I’ve been thinking
about this friend zone thing for a while now actually. People seem to be more
terrified of it now more than ever. Could it be because women have always been
thought of as beings that do not know what they want and now that they can
class and drop you in this no return zone everyone is suddenly afraid? I
actually don’t believe in this zone or that it exists since even those you
think are in it won’t settle for it.
