Boy meets Girl....

Most people quickly discard the typical boy girl movies, failing so miserably to see the pure simple importance attached to them. Boy girl movies are carefully tailored to the day to day experience of any boy and girl, carefully choosing the right sample of subjects from a variety of walks of life and using the most possible outcome as their basis. I on the other hand, know and watch every boy girl movie out there. I’ve watched so many to the point that I can play the movie out til the end before it even gets to the midpoint marker. And I am always right.

So moving on to the point, this girl I know called Izzy recently found herself in a typical boy girl situation and she didn’t even know it. But lucky for her I pointed it out to her while we were having one of our sessions. Let me take you back to the start so you relate and hopefully understand. Izzy and Timothy knew they had a future the day they met each other, both playful, proud and both with Alpha personalities when it came to relationships. They grew a strong friendship over the years as they both played their games waiting to see who would fold and make the move. They played these games so much that they didn’t even realize that they had become their substitution for a real relationship. These games are what held them together, allowing them to express in a somewhat subtle way, emotions they couldn’t express without the bond of a real relationship. But then Izzy met New guy, new guy threw Izzy totally off Timothy’s radar.

At the start her heart easily found Timothy a place for a very special friend. They still fought and played their games but not in that fun and interesting way they did before. These ones were more intense and hurtful. They were now set out to destroy each other. This gave Izzy the push she needed to block him out and pursue this more meaningful relationship with new guy. She grew to love new guy since he had some of those arrogant bad boy characters that she loved so much. Things were more than great, best they ever were until Timothy stepped up. Tried to tell Izzy where she at isn’t where she supposed to be never really putting it plainly that he is who she is supposed to be with. But Izzy knew Timothy too well so she knew exactly what he was saying and evaded all the attempts he made to meet and discuss what was going on. She was lost, didn’t know what she wanted. But then new guy was damaged goods, too much baggage to share not to mention his somewhat psychotic obsessive thing he now had for Izzy. With these new developments on new guy’s front he made it easy for her to distance herself from him. So slowly with a bit of time she managed to find herself and decided she now knew what she wanted.

Today, Izzy finds herself pursuing timothy, the sad part is Timothy was somehow damaged during that new guy phase and had found his joy in other places. Other girls….. He never really cared about them but they were good enough. He didn’t really need the emotional part of it no more. Izzy beats herself up because she let this happen, obsessing over every post tweet and mention Timothy does, hoping he doesn’t actually move on. She finally decides to confront him the way they did when they had their beautiful and unique friendship, forgetting that they were no longer in that beautiful place. This only pushed him further, he felt victimized, why was he on the receiving end of the heat? He was puzzled. After hearing all this in our most recent session I quickly told her that this is a typical boy girl story. 

Boy meets girl. Boy and girl become the best of friends. Girl falls in love with new guy and boy is hurt. So boy tries to get girl back but girl is lost and mistakes her infatuation for new guy to be love. so boy lets go. Girl then realizes she its boy she really likes and leaves new guy. Girl starts to pursue boy but boy is hurt and has his defenses up. So Izzy asks me, ‘how does it end?’ I told her in this typical boy girl story, boy moves on and finds new girl despite girl’s obvious attempts. Karma is a bitch and its got to take its course. Boy moves on just to test girl and see if she is really here to stay or is still playing games. But then boy finds himself deeply attracted to new girl, they date for a while till he starts to compare new girl to girl and she can’t seem to live up to girl’s level. New girl’s flaws start to become more dominant and it eats at their relationship. Boy and girl finally date and laugh at each other for ever being so silly and they are in a more beautiful place than they were. I also told Izzy that like I said in the start this is only but the most possible outcome and there is that 1 out of 10 chances that it plays out differently and it was all up to her to pursue the outcome she desires. Her future with Timothy now depends on her next move…..

Music of my soul.

I never write anything here that speaks directly about me so let me share one small but significant thing about me. Music is a huge part of me. I listen to music when I get up in the morning, in the shower, on my way to class or work, while I do maths, while I do a very demanding task, when I am just chilling and even in bed before I go to sleep. I listen to music literally 80% of my time. Different playlists for different times and to set different moods.

I am a lover of music so if I were to list the genres I love I would probably end up listing all of them. Music is a beautiful art that speaks to my soul, each genre playing its role at different times and in different aspects of my life. However, if I were to list my top genres I would tell you straight up that Hip-hop is number one. Eminem is without a doubt my favourite rap artist, mostly because I can relate to most of his music. Yes, even the tracks where is goin’ off at chicks. I totally get where he comes from with his music even though he is so misunderstood by most. This however doesn’t stop me from listening to other rap artists. I love Nas, Kanye and so many others but I want to talk about artists like Lil Wayne. I know Mcz that won’t hear of him but I honestly appreciate his music. Lil Wayne, Soulja boy etc all those rap artists everyone feels the need to frown upon. I actually enjoy that music. Like I said music is an art, each character playing its important role and presenting its unique skill. Sure, lil wayne may not be the best lyricist in the world but he produces rap some relate to, his chilla playful stupid lyrics are sometimes what people want to listen to. I know so many people that frown on him that have quoted him more than once. Anyway to cut the long story short I think every rap artist bring something different to the table and I appreciate it. Well not all, some are just lost but that’s a whole other story.

So getting back to that list, I have to say rock music comes in second with Reggae following closely at number three. Rock music always helps me think and reflect always painting all sorts of journeys in my mind. Well, there are different types of rock and I must say I appreciate all of them but my alliances lie mostly with the more subtle rock. Blink 182, the Cranberries, Linkin Park, Cyndi Lauper, Aerosmith, Coldplay, The Verve's Bitter sweet symphony and Evanescence, some of the artists whose albums I have on repeat whenever I am having my moments of clarity. With reggae Bob Marley #legend comes first of course but Damian follows closely and distant relatives is a personal favorite. I actually have too many posters of Bob up in my room one would think I am obsessed with his music but its really just relevant at certain times and points in my life.Then the rest follows, classical music  with Symphony no9 by Ludwig van Beethoven, Caribbean blue by Enya and Adiemus by Karl Jenkins toping the charts, Dancehall with Shaggy and Movado whose voices just do things to me, not forgetting Hilsong and Lecrae with gospel, I could go on and  on really. I love music.

Let me just conclude with music from my home. Music back home has come such a long way and I am so proud and happy for everyone that has made that possible. A lot of that music features in the numerous playlists I listed above but I felt it deserves a paragraph of its own. As expected my personal favourites lie mostly in the hiphop genre but let me make a comprehensive list. Strating with the ladies of course Evon Love Effude, Touched me not forgetting that killer hook on Klarity Anthem , Mys Natty crash n burn, Lilian kawa, Keko Alwoo and moving on to the men Navio, Mith, Enygma, PL@y, Lyrikal Proof, Patrobas et al. This list also seems too endless, making me even more proud of the growth in the industry. Not forgetting our Eastafrican family Madtraxx, Nonini and the list goes on and on. I fear i cannot round up all my music in one blog so let me wrap it up like a gift and hit post.